I hope you’ve had a gentle few days, and that the solstice brought you at least a small sense of pause. Even if it was quiet. I had a wonderful time, as it is my husband's birthday on winter solstice. ✨
We’re slowly moving toward lighter days now. And I keep thinking about how often light is talked about as something we must use. As if more light automatically means more energy, more output, more becoming.
But bodies don’t work like that.
What I see again and again, especially with tender, thoughtful business owners, is this pattern:
we’re very good at giving, but receiving is complicated.
- Praise.
- Support.
- Money.
- Ease.
- Visibility.
They arrive, and instead of feeling warm, something tightens.
We deflect.
We minimise.
We give back immediately.
Or we rush to get rid of the feeling altogether.
Not because we don’t want these things.
But because receiving has often come with a cost.
Here’s something that changed a lot for me when I finally saw it clearly:
Receiving and holding are not the same thing.
Receiving is the moment something arrives.
Holding is what happens after.
You can receive something beautiful, and still not feel safe keeping it.
It’s not necessarily self-sabotage.
It’s your nervous system doing its best to protect you.
For many of us, receiving was never neutral.
It came with obligation.
With expectation.
With a sense of owing.
Especially around this time of year, that can become very visible.
Gifts that don’t feel light.
Kindness that feels like a ledger.
Care that carries an unspoken “now you must...”.
That isn’t gratitude.
That’s transaction.
And transactional energy lives in the body as tension.
As vigilance.
As a quiet sense of debt.
The abundant body doesn’t keep score.
It gives when it has capacity.
It receives without bracing.
It allows gratitude to be warmth, not repayment.
Here’s a small reflection you can sit with today or tomorrow, if it feels okay:
Is there something you received recently that you didn’t fully let land?
A compliment.
Help.
Appreciation.
Money.
A moment of ease.
Just notice what your body did.
That noticing alone starts to expand capacity.
On December 27th, I’m hosting a free workshop called The Abundant Body, inside my community Worthy & Rising - Biz Rebels.
It’s a gentle, embodied space where we explore:
how to receive without contracting,
how to hold what you’re calling in,
and how to release transactional patterns that quietly block abundance.
You can join live, or watch the recording later.
Everything lives inside the community, where we also gather for workshops, challenges, and moon sessions, and where you’re held beyond a single event.
This is about letting your body soften enough to receive what’s already here.
Either way, I’m wishing you warmth, rest, and kindness toward yourself as the light slowly returns.
You’re welcome if it feels right.
Parnuuna 🖤
